If you're Bipolar I have some questions for you...
1. Do you idealize your new date as if they are perfect?
2. Do you think of the new person in your life as the person you're going to spend the rest of your life with? (Planning out the future in your head before actually going on a first real date with them?)
3. Are you constantly texting/calling this new person?
4. Have you had sex before the third date?
5. Have you talked to them about the future already? Like moving in together, marriage, and kids? And it's only the first month..
6. Have you started obsessing over them and it's only month one?
If you've said yes to any or all of these, you probably move too fast in relationships. It's okay. I do too. I'm guilty of all of these and I have friends who are as well. They are also Bipolar.
I tried looking up research on this topic, Bipolars moving too quickly in relationships. Not much came up. So I'll give my opinions on this one, or at least the reasons on why I think I do it.
1. Do you idealize your new date as if they are perfect?
2. Do you think of the new person in your life as the person you're going to spend the rest of your life with? (Planning out the future in your head before actually going on a first real date with them?)
3. Are you constantly texting/calling this new person?
4. Have you had sex before the third date?
5. Have you talked to them about the future already? Like moving in together, marriage, and kids? And it's only the first month..
6. Have you started obsessing over them and it's only month one?
If you've said yes to any or all of these, you probably move too fast in relationships. It's okay. I do too. I'm guilty of all of these and I have friends who are as well. They are also Bipolar.
I tried looking up research on this topic, Bipolars moving too quickly in relationships. Not much came up. So I'll give my opinions on this one, or at least the reasons on why I think I do it.
I told a friend the other day my reasoning. I said the reason I move too fast is because, "I want to make sure there could be a real future with the person and that it could work out before becoming serious with them and actually falling and giving my heart to them." My heart has been broken too many times to count and if having a talk about kids/marriage/politics the first month of talking is too fast for someone than oh well. I'd rather get to know that a person wants the same things as I and has the same ideas as me in the first month, than find out that we have totally opposite views about religion/abortion/children/life a year later.
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